Annie's Woodshed: Crowned Worst Wife EVER

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Thursday, June 23, 2011

Crowned Worst Wife EVER

Amended: Ok I stand corrected...~~Crowned Worst Wife EVER~~ Best Husband EVER

Yes I now hold the crown of worst wife ever. Yesterday was a day from the underworld. I totally snapped at work and went off on my soon to be former boss. Let me stop right here and say no I wasn't fired he was kind of sort of...They didn't renew his contract for the upcoming academic year, he will teach one class in the fall and then be gone. He is not happy, he is angry and he tends to let his attitude rule what he says and does. He is sarcastic and is never wrong. To make matters worse he is a hoarder and the hoarding feeds his narcissistic personality. He has had to clean his office out and was forced to throw stuff away. So he was even more angry and whined the whole time.

So any way...he was in one of his "I am right and you are not going to prove me wrong" attitudes and he went off when I told him that something was not his personally it was the universities. OMG ... it was horrible it turned into a shouting match and I retaliated. Which is totally out of charcater for me. Usually I only retaliate with my family. I usually will suck it up and let everyone else (especially my boss) walk all over me then go him and moan and groan to hubby. Not yesterday...

A little something about me, I have red hair and a temper to match. I am a thrower but I have to past angry in order to go in to throwing mode. I was there yesterday, I was so angry I was shaking and I was past the crying stage. Now normally by this stage my guys would be ducking and running for cover (I usually hit what I aim for) but because of dd I was able to control my self yesterday. I stayed in my seat and continued to type when I really wanted to get up and slam my door in his face. I am just so thankful that my keyboard and mouse are not wireless.

I told hubby about it and he knows my boss so he was ok, I didn't get in trouble. Hubby knew I had come close to quitting yesterday. I had actually typed out my resignation notice but then I decided they were going to have to fire me. By the time I got home I had worked a good lather and in a snit so I was sent to bed for a nap. I think it was because he didn't want to hear me gripe and complain - and this is where I was crowned worst wife ever...my poor family did not get dinner last night. If they ate anything it was cold cereal or left overs.

So me working at being submissive to my darling is working in more areas of my life than I realize.

Just so you know I am not making it up about the boss' office. These are actual pictures from "the office", this is after 19 paper boxes of books were donated to the library, and about 15 paper boxes of garbage and 10 boxes of shredding was hauled out. It took him five weeks to get the office "cleaned" out. It will still take me another day or two to finish up and get it ready for the new chair coming on board.

7 comments:

findingsaraJune 23, 2011 at 9:58 AM
Oh Annie, how awful of HIM! Bosses are supposed to act better than those they supervise and set an example!

As for the "worst wife ever"...sorry I am not voting for you. You had a REALLY bad day, and I am fairy sure your husband must know how to throw together sandwiches, or left overs, and I'll bet they all managed just fine! Is there anything wrong with letting hubby take care of you now and again? I sure hope today is better! Sara
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RogueJune 23, 2011 at 11:30 AM
Annie, sometimes you've got to let off a little/lot of steam. I don't think you should be wearing a 'worst wife ever' crown. In the past five years, I've had TWO really bad days. I came home and told Jared "I don't feel like being a wife or mom tonight." He understood and sent me off to be alone. What they had for supper... I was afraid to ask. :)
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K's sweetieJune 23, 2011 at 11:50 AM
If not fixing supper makes you worst wife of the year..I must be worst of the century! Sounds like your day was very stressful and you needed the downtime. If you hadn't gotten it, you might have taken it out on your hubby and kids. Cold cereal never hurt anyone.....and there's always pizza...give yourself a break :)
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PKJune 23, 2011 at 2:00 PM
Now wait, if I read right you were 'sent off to a nap' because you were upset. If you took a nap you were doing as you were told. Doing as your husband asks is being submissive. There is nothing wrong with your family fending for themselves when you've had a really rough day. It's the sign of a good HOH to see to your needs as much as you see to his.

I hope work settles down soon.

Hugs,
PK
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Annie's WoodshedJune 23, 2011 at 3:34 PM
Ok so y'all are correct my family are not little children that can not fend for themselves. I mean my baby is 21 but I just hate the idea of my husband having to fix his own dinner, that is my job.

Yes the stress level is off the Richter scale and I really needed the down time. Work should be better SOON. In all fairness this is tough on the boss in more ways than one. Not only was his contract not renewed (the admins decision not his) but like I said he is a hoarder and for a hoarder to have to clean out and throw away causes deep depression. Most hoarders feel important if they have their "stuff" and now that his "stuff" is gone he realizes that he was not as special as he thought he was. By no means does that excuse him for being so rude to me but I didn't have to add insult to injury either.

Thanks for the vote of confidence.
Annie
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AnonymousJune 23, 2011 at 9:40 PM
Oh Annie! That is so not worst wife ever. If it was, well then I get that crown every other day!

You need to go see that new movie Bad Bosses. We all have wanted to take out a boss or two here or there.

You'll be fine. Just show them your worth and be glad he is gone!

Hugs!!
Kelly
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kiwigirliegirlJune 23, 2011 at 11:17 PM
Ditto to everyone's comments. Your boss should have known way better, you did so well not to have reacted - i know i would have done. And your family can cope - as much as we like to think they cant, they can. And wont hold it against you for taking a night off. And yes, you were doing as you were told being sent off to bed for a nap.
I hope tomorrow is better for you :)
Love and hugs xx
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

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