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A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Saturday, June 18, 2011

How Do I...

Encourage him?

Feed his self confidence?

Submit to him when he does not seem to care?

Know whether he really cares or not?

Does he really want this?

What am I really getting out of this?

Would he be happier with just erotic spankings?

Why do I want this life?

Do I really need this life?

What was wrong with the old way?

Am I topping form the bottom?

Is 30 years to much to undo?

Can I really just live the life of the Proverbs 31 woman without him correcting me...If I live the life of Proverbs 31 would I need correcting?

I feel like Toto when Dorthy said she didn't think they were in Kansas any more. It is not just DD that I am struggling with but my whole purpose for being here and what I want to do with the rest of my life. I have 18 years before I can retire what do I want to do for the next 18 years? These questions just keep running through my head.

Is there a fast forward button any where?

7 comments:

Dragon's RoseJune 18, 2011 at 1:51 PM
Sometimes, planning is one day at a time. It is too hard to plan into the future. Today I am only planning 10 minutes ahead. Yep, it is one of those days. Trust in God to lead you in the right direction. Trust your husband. He cares. Our men get off track just like we do. Submit to him. He notices even when he doesn’t say anything. There is more to CDD than spanking. Look at my Dragon’s blog. I think he said it best.
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LilyJune 18, 2011 at 3:11 PM
The Proverbs 31 woman is perfection and as humans we can't be that woman! Don't be so hard on yourself ... Christ came to earth so that we could be in relationship with our spouse, friends & family not be perfect!

~Hugs~
Lily
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PKJune 18, 2011 at 4:24 PM
I'm right there with you Annie. I wrote a post last night with nearly the same questions only mine was full of hurt and anger. I'm not posting it, but I needed to write it. I have 6 years to go until retirement. I don't know if I want a fast forward button or just a peep ahead button.

I know this is confusing for the men. I did live for nearly 40 years (23 after we were married) knowing I had this need but not daring to ask Nick for what I needed. I know I can live without it - I did. But I know that I am healthier, happier, and more fulfilled with this in my life.

Just keep sharing out here. We all need each other for support. I found that out last night.

Hugs,
PK
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AnonymousJune 18, 2011 at 4:50 PM
Annie,

I've now been married 26 years and like you, this whole idea of TTWD is something that wasn't always incorporated into our marriage until just recently.
For myself, it is hard to step back and give total control of this life to Daddy, but I don't want it if it is forced.
I've been advised by several ladies that it takes time...not sure how long, lol!

Kitty
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Spanked Army WifeJune 19, 2011 at 12:58 AM
Im going through much of the same. hang in there!
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StormyJune 19, 2011 at 3:34 AM
See, and I wish mine were not so strict with me! I wish you guys could have what you wish for, and I would slow mine down if there was any way..just get some of my old freedoms back for awhile. Want me to send him to your house for awhile?
LOL. He's cute but he's a pain! :)
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K's sweetieJune 19, 2011 at 12:49 PM
Hang in there Annie...we ALL have doubts...wouldn't be human if we didn't...keep the faith and this moment will pass...."life is what happens while we're busy planning for the future." Hugs!
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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