Annie's Woodshed: Bitten in the Butt AGAIN

A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Monday, December 13, 2010

Bitten in the Butt AGAIN

Again the written word has come back to bite me in the proverbial butt. It seems some have read my blog and thought me to be serious when I said the dowels may just disappear.

Let me assure you that if the dowels disappear it will not be by my hand. I get in enough trouble with unintentional disrespect (like opening the car door for myself) without doing something as stupid as tossing something that Hubby plans to use as an instrument of punishment.

One even asked, “Why do you want your husband to spank you?” It is not that I want to be spanked, I want the order, peace and harmony that this lifestyle brings. I previously stated that we have been married almost 30 years; we will celebrate our 30^th anniversary in May 2011. We have raised three boys and fought hard to keep this marriage together because we both take our “death do you part” vow very serious. There have been some good years, some really good years, some bad years as well as some really bad years. Yes the word divorce has been tossed around more than once, but we prevailed.

I am not even sure how I came across information about domestic discipline. It is not a topic that I would normally search. I don’t have this deep desire to dress up like a little girl and pretend that I am naughty so that my husband will spank me. I am a very conservative Christian lady that could be described as prudish. So for me to even suggest this has set my husband back on his heels.

At first he probably thought “oh great another one of her hair brain ideas” but when I handed him my side of the contract he took me a little more serious. I have been showing him everything I have read and even download a couple of e-books for us to read. He has finally realized that I am serious about this life style. I catch him looking at me every once in a while like YES!!! She finally gets it - she finally realizes that I am the ring master of this three ring circus not her!

In just the few weeks that we have worked to get things in order for this life style I have noticed a difference not only in our marriage but in him. There is more peace and harmony in my house. And yes when he looks at me with that warning look that I am about to cross the line it sends a tingle down my spine and has me quivering in more ways than one.

In all honesty after my very first spanking and him taking me the way he did I want more. My turncoat of a body submitted to him and was putty in his hands even though my brain was screaming NO WHAT ARE YOU DOING! But afterwards all felt right.

Does that mean I am going to lean over my husband’s knee every time with no argument? Nope not a chance (Irish – red head – temper you get the picture) but I will. Why? Because I know he loves me and will never hurt me and it means that there will be peace and harmony in my home once again.

5 comments:

Dragon's RoseDecember 13, 2010 at 2:27 PM
Great post. So many people don't understand. I don't want to keep this a secret but I know it has to stay that way.
ReplyDelete
Replies
The Quiet ManDecember 13, 2010 at 3:21 PM
Yep, you Irish gals are a handful. I have one of my own ;-) Mary Kate has a similar outlook as you. She doesn't like being spanked but she does like structured environment and the peace this lifestyle brings. I'm glad DD has made such a difference in your marriage.
-Sean
ReplyDelete
Replies
The Quiet ManDecember 14, 2010 at 9:39 AM
Mary-Kate here, and I couldn't agree with you more! I'm opinionated, a little on the hot-headed side, born-leader, so this is an adjustment too. But there is no value I could put on the harmony we have in this house, and if it means I learn to shut my mouth sometimes and listen and submit, then so be it!
ReplyDelete
Replies
Annie's WoodshedDecember 14, 2010 at 3:26 PM
Thanks Sean and Mary-Kate, I am glad others understand what my poor hubby has to deal with. I don't mean to be disrespectful but a lot of time my mouth opens before my brain engages. I am very out spoke and tend to tell it like I see it. When dealing with strangers I try to be more tactful but I some times (well most of the time) don't use decorum when dealing with hubby. Bad Annie I know.
ReplyDelete
Replies
Daisy ChristianDecember 17, 2010 at 10:59 PM
very very well said !!! thank you thank you !!! you understand me :)
ReplyDelete
Replies

Add comment

Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

Annie's Woodshed