Annie's Woodshed: The punishment is withholding punishment

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Wednesday, December 1, 2010

The punishment is withholding punishment

Well I have been informed that the punishment for acting out to get a spanking will be no spanking at all. Now why would I act out to get a spanking I am an angel. J

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KadyDecember 1, 2010 at 3:28 PM
JJ used to say "if a spanking is what you want, then how is that a punishment?" I assured him that he COULD give me one that would feel like a punishment..... and he has. He knows the difference now.

Work hard to honor him, so he really sees you want to become submissive. It's hard not to brat in the early part of TTWD. Maybe you can ask him for a therapeutic spanking to help prevent you from desiring his assurance in DD. I think we just want to be assured our men will "step up" as HOH. Even more importantly, talk...communicate, but don't overwhelm him.

You'll get there eventually. It just takes time, and lots of patience. Hang in there!

Kady
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B'ManDecember 1, 2010 at 3:40 PM
M'man!
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Annie's WoodshedDecember 1, 2010 at 7:21 PM
B'man you would side with him :-p

Kady everyone will be out of the house tomorrow night so I am hoping for a very nice long therapeutic spanking to get me through. Since my b'day is Monday maybe he will make it my b'day spanking lets see that is 48 plus one to grow on LOL
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AnonymousDecember 1, 2010 at 10:07 PM
The reasoning makes my head hurt. If it had been Lynda I would have gone ahead and spanked her hard enough to make her sorry she wanted one. But that's just me.
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Daisy ChristianDecember 1, 2010 at 10:25 PM
Nick you sound like LT he would b like ok you wanna spanking ....
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Annie's WoodshedDecember 2, 2010 at 8:12 AM
Humm Mick, maybe I should be glad that his punishment is to make me do without. All I could think about when I read your post was ouch and squeeze my butt cheeks.
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SheilaDecember 2, 2010 at 10:19 PM
I just asked for a spanking today because I could feel myself starting to slip into that mindset of acting out to earn a spanking. As it turns out, I earned an extra one with the belt for presuming that J would forget my maintenance! Me and my big mouth...

I can't speak for everyone, but I know I feel a tremendous sense of relief and calm when J is controlling me. Earlier this week I got a spanking and cornertime. It sounds odd if you're not in this place, but even though the spanking hurt, feeling him hold me in place was reassuring. And although corner time is boring, hearing him tell me, kindly but firmly, to get there and face the wall, made me feel that everything was OK, I was safe.

It's hard to understand, I think, if you're not in that same place emotionally, but I'm really beginning to crave J's discipline.
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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