Annie's Woodshed: To Tell or Not To Tell

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Saturday, December 18, 2010

To Tell or Not To Tell

So if I was good Sub I guess I would tell hubby that the thin little dowel he uses...well...it just doesn't leave a lasting impression like the hair brush. But that will be my little secret LOL. We are still working on the communication issue. I need to talk to him more and I wish he would talk to me more during the discipline but hey at least we are off the starting block.

I am learning and as you know patience is not one of my virtues. So things are not always smooth. I feel as if I am living in different worlds. By night I am submissive by day I am out in the world and am not so submissive so it causes conflicts with my head. I have a hard time leaving the "top" attitude at work.

10 comments:

Dragon's RoseDecember 18, 2010 at 2:55 PM
It took me a few days to tell my Dragon the the dowel just didn't do the job. I'm not sure about the LJ yet. But the plexi glass paddle.... Now that thing leaves an impression that lasts for days. I HATE IT! Give your self time. You can't be submissive to everyone. It will come.
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sixofthebestDecember 18, 2010 at 3:06 PM
For me, the right thickness, and length, of a dowel stick works wonders, upon a naughty lady's bare bottom when I have applied it her rear end.
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sixofthebestDecember 18, 2010 at 3:13 PM
Annie my dear, could you please answer this controversial question for me. Since you state you have three grown sons, all in their 20's. If you were very naughty in their eyes, would you present your bare bottom them, so they could spank you. Don't blush, but I am asking a most profound question.
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AnonymousDecember 18, 2010 at 4:56 PM
The hairbrush has to be better then the loopy Johnny you talk about....clever way to tell your husband, lol
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Annie's WoodshedDecember 18, 2010 at 5:13 PM
Sixofthebest, not sure why you are asking that question but I will answer it. No I would not present my bare bottom to my sons because I am not submissive to them they are my children and will always be my children. They are not head of my house; therefore, I am not "answerable" to them. There is only one HOH in this house and it is my husband. He and he alone is the only one that I would allow to spank me.
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sixofthebestDecember 18, 2010 at 7:56 PM
Thank you Annie, for answering my provocative question, You truly are a lady, and you answered my question ladylike. May you have a joyous holiday season, with your bottom always blushing red, from your husband's point of view.
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B'ManDecember 18, 2010 at 11:48 PM
Most of the communication about these things is probably more effective sometime after a discipline. Direct communication is best. But...

It doesn't hurt to take the opportunity to say something like, "That didn't hurt as much as I thought it would." Or something like, "That faded fast. It's almost like I didn't get a spanking at all." Perhaps he'll begin to feel that he should change implements or crank it up a bit.
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AnonymousDecember 19, 2010 at 7:37 AM
I'm finding out that I can make declarations during discipline--"this action will get you a spanking every time, woman." Rather than heartfelt discussion: "What are you feeling about this issue right now." I don't want to hear the answer from my wife at that moment.
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Annie's WoodshedDecember 19, 2010 at 10:48 AM
B'man and Mick thanks so much for your insight. He said he would have to improve upon his technique. I am not saying the skinny dowel doesn't hurt but the sting is gone rather quickly compared to the sting of his hand or the hairbrush.
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KadyDecember 19, 2010 at 8:41 PM
Yes, open communication is good, but later when it's apart from the session. He will learn to read you during the event, though. Technique takes time, and we're still learning and growing, too (oh, man, do I EVER hate skinny things! Esp. that cat toy from the dollar tree....ours "broke").

Hugs,

Kady
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

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