Annie's Woodshed: Why O' Why Does Life Have to Get in the Way

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"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Why O' Why Does Life Have to Get in the Way

As I sit here at my desk and look around I feel myself slipping further and further backwards. Even at home I am slipping. My desk is covered and I can not find it. Things are piling up faster than I can stuff them under the bed, or couch or in the closet or were ever I can find places to stuff them. I don’t work well in clutter. The winter blue bug has crept in without me noticing and has latched on. HOH is up to his eyeballs also so I do not feel right asking him to help pull me out of this funk.

I so miss my stay at home wife/mom days. I keep telling myself just 5 more semesters that is 2.5 years, May 2013 I can (and will) go back to being a housewife. Yes I like that word, not domestic engineer, or home maker (in my opinion it takes more than the wife to make a home) or any other fancy title that some women call themselves; me…I long for those days. I am about multi-tasked out. I was pretty sure they would be cloning by now and I would have the perfect Stepford wife clone to fill in when I needed her to but no such luck.

I know you are probably reading this going OMG her HOH needs to do something and quick she is going to snap. No I will be ok I am just under a lot of stress right now. Stress that I normally wouldn’t have to deal with and added to the fact my raging hormones are pre-menopausal is not helping. Why oh why did Adam have to eat that apple? Adam should have been a strong HOH!

Here is what I am facing. I think most of you know I work at a private university well…The “powers that be” have decided that the department I work in needs a new direction. So they are not renewing the chair’s contract. He has been given two options…1) take a regular professor position or 2) retire. I am caught in the middle - between a rock and a hard place so to speak. We are in the beginning phases of searching for a new chair which means a lot of added work for me…drafting the advertisement, finding places to advertise and building a data base of places we are advertising. This is all before the official announcement is made that we are looking for a chair. So now not only am I tackling this project, classes start back next Wednesday, late registration and new student registration is Tuesday, faculty will be back Monday which means the copier will some how end up jamming a gazillion times and I don’t know why it is but PhDs can’t seem to follow the directions to unjam the copier so they call me…the dang thing is sitting right out side my office. It is one of those things that falls under “and other duties assigned” And get this there is more SNOW in the forecast. The 11.5 inches Christmas day was not enough they are predicting a worse storm next week (please stay north, please stay north, please stay north).

My life is not my own right now and I am tied in knots. I need a vacation! Actually I need my darling husband to take me to the mountains where we can get snowed in together and there is NO cell service and he can keep me warm. (no y’all not just my bottom either)

Ok so my headache is still around (hormonal you know) but now that I have whined I feel a little better. Yes I know a good stress relief spanking might help but like I said HOH is up to his eyeballs and he is more exhausted than I am. Maybe in a few weeks things will settle down and we can run away for the weekend.

Thanks for listening…well reading. I hope things are going well for you in the new year!

3 comments:

HiddenHaloJanuary 6, 2011 at 2:43 PM
wow ... i SO relate to this. been knowing i need a vacay (havent had one in ... i cant remember), i work from home (which can be worse cuz the time on the clock doesnt make me quit) and Bobby is so far away. we are both in admin, so i feel your paperwork and 'other duties as assigned' pains. hormones? yeah, i relate there too.

i think what we both need is to have a good laugh over a good cup of latte. cant wait to meet you.
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PKJanuary 6, 2011 at 4:19 PM
Annie,
It's nice to know others have real life issues that interfere with a smooth dd life. Don't you love the way education always has to 'find a new direction' and how often it's just seems to cause more trouble.

I hope you get your get away soon!

Hugs,
PK
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AnonymousJanuary 8, 2011 at 8:25 AM
Isn't it interesting that as lofty as education tries to be it still ends up in confusion and jammed copiers. Hope you feel better soon
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

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