Annie's Woodshed: In Time Out AGAIN!!!

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Wednesday, February 9, 2011

In Time Out AGAIN!!!

Well it seems I am in trouble yet again. *Heavy Sigh* He is not upset that I did what I did (which was paying a bill - the light bill of all things) he is upset that I didn’t tell him BEFORE I paid the light bill. I am battling the old self. Old Self would say pppppsssssttttttt on you. I can’t believe you are upset because I paid a freaking light bill without telling you. You should be thanking me that the d***n lights were not turned off.

But the new me is sitting here waiting for the storm to pass. Letting him work through this and trying not to pitch a hissy fit. OMG IT IS NOT EASY. No I have not been able to keep quiet either. I have mouthed off but have tried to refrain from being disrespectful. It has got to get easier doesn’t it? It will get easier right?

9 comments:

AnonymousFebruary 9, 2011 at 12:05 PM
You know, if we could work on communicating more and mouthing off less, life would go a lot smoother.

But it might not be as interesting.
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HiddenHaloFebruary 9, 2011 at 12:05 PM
OMG it must be something going around .. maybe a virus? yeah, that sounds good .. a virus. ;)

see ... there was this conversation this morning - just a brief one - and its contents didnt set well with me (re: a health issue of his). things were fine, i even let him know that i was angry with him, then changed my mind and said he was actually scaring me. then he made some other comments that seemed fine until i thought about them some more, by this time he was gone.

well, the contents became under pressure and ... well ... exploded all over into an email to him. ha! to top things off, just as i hit 'send,' he texted me with another 'innocent' comment that just made things worse. so ... yeah, you guessed it ... my text response was under pressure too.

arrrgghhh. yeah, it will get easier .. but right now the 'old self' still reigns.
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Daisy ChristianFebruary 9, 2011 at 12:26 PM
O letting go of that control is such a hard thing and just when you think you let go you will realize you are still holding on to something!!! grrr
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Annie's WoodshedFebruary 9, 2011 at 12:58 PM
I had to laugh when I got back from lunch and read the comments.

HH - I can just imagine those text messages flying back and forth.

Daisy - you just don't know how much truth are in your words. And here I thought I was doing so good.

Mick - I am all for smoother, but for now I am pity my bottom once he works through his anger. The full moon is not till next Friday but I have a feeling there will be a red moon tonight at my house.
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Domestic DisciplineFebruary 9, 2011 at 2:31 PM
Nobody said it was gonna be easy!!!
Specially keep your mouth shut, it is like...IMPOSSIBLE! Just try not to listen to the old you. It will help you some :)
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Annie's WoodshedFebruary 9, 2011 at 3:42 PM
DD - I am beginning to realize that keeping my mouth shut is not going to be that easy.

Hubby just walked into my office and informed me that he has had time to cool off and think things through and we will be having a session tonight. I am tingling all over and my stomach is doing flip flops. This will be the first session that he has instigated himself. All the others have been me confessing something.
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AnonymousFebruary 9, 2011 at 4:23 PM
Annie, this really is significant, too. For me, I still have to summon my nerve to do what he's doing, although I'm sure Lynda doesn't think I have much trouble.
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Annie's WoodshedFebruary 9, 2011 at 4:53 PM
Mick, I know this is really significant. But to be honest I am scared spitless. Why well because all the others I knew he doing it to humor me of sorts. But this one well he is really angry with me and this is his choice so I am nervous as to the outcome.

I know he will never hurt me and I have agreed to this...heck this whole thing was my idea. I guess now that he has got the hang of it and showing his authority and the rubber is meeting the road I have turned into a big chicken.

Check back tomorrow on the outcome. One of us will blog about it...maybe LOL
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cedenoFebruary 9, 2011 at 8:41 PM
I think it's human nature to hold onto that part of you or, well, have trouble letting it go. The human nature is a survival instinct. Don't worry...you're only human. This is why I'm investigating other species to become!

Good luck!
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

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