Annie's Woodshed: Basic Training

A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Basic Training

Well week one of boot camp came and went and we are now in the middle of week two. Ok so he got a little excited with his text on Friday (LOL) but I managed to get it all done. We did discuss the text concerning the bed sheets being washed. I wish I had a camera when the light bulb went off and he realized that the bed had already been made and I had to unmake the bed to wash the sheets. It was priceless…gotta love that man. Saturday morning he let me sleep late but he got up and painted out bathroom. Yes I slept through the smell…I now understand why it is $28+ a gallon paint there is no smell. Wasn’t too pleased with the color but as it dries and cures it is turning more gray than blue.

Now for my take on boot camp – I have come to the realization that I was made for submission. Oh yes I am sassy but he can stop me in my tracks with just “THE LOOK.” Boot camp has been good for both me and hubby, he is getting better at giving orders and “the look” and I am getting better at being spoiled and treated like a queen; not that he wasn’t good to me before but I ordered my own food, sometimes I let him open the doors for me and well it is the detail things we are working on. I like the term basic training instead of boot camp. Because that is what he is doing he is retraining me to let him take care of me.

It is funny – sometimes I still forget and open my car door when we go somewhere and all he does is clear his throat and I slam the door back and wait. When he opens the door and I get out he will say that is one (I am so glad he can’t count because we have been on one for a while now LOL) I try and explain to him it is the force of him opening and closing his door that causes mine to pop open all by itself but he doesn’t buy that. Hey a girl has to try doesn’t she?

Rules:

1. You are not allowed to touch a door outside the house if I am with you.

2. You will not order food when I am with you.

3. I will call or text you will chores to do when you are off and I have to work.

4. If you are told to do something you will do it no questions no arguments

5. You will wear what I ask you to wear.

6 comments:

cedenoMarch 1, 2011 at 8:59 PM
I like your rules. I was telling hubby about it and he is not that into this type of submission level, so he didn't really get it. I was explaining what I thought the 'behind the scenes' meanings were. Anyway, I am glad it is going well for you. I think that's lovely that you are feeling like a queen. That's so dreamy!
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AnonymousMarch 1, 2011 at 9:21 PM
Each couple has their own way of doing things. Lynda and I have a different set of rules. I don't insist on her waiting for me to open the door, although I usually do. And I don't order food for her. My rules are different--call me when she gets somewhere, get chores done by specific times. I love your rule about wearing what he says. We may have to do that around here:).
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AudraMarch 2, 2011 at 12:30 AM
Sounds like its going really well! Nice! A girl can get used to being treated like a queen, minus the daily spankings though... :-) Good luck this next week!
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Annie's WoodshedMarch 2, 2011 at 8:38 AM
Cedeno, Hubby doesn't like the word submission he said it makes me sound like a door mat but what does appeal to him is me letting him be the man of the house. And this is his way of training me to let go and let him.

Mick, you are so right, we are not cookies cut from the same mold. What works for you and Lynda wouldn't work for me and Paul. He doesn't tell me very often what to wear just when we are going out together. He said he doesn't have a problem with slacks and seeing as I am the one that knows what I have to do at work then he is not going to choose my wardrobe for work. When we are at home alone (which is rare) he does have this favorite skirt that he wants me to wear.

Audra, A girl can definitely get used to being treated like a queen real quick. As for the daily spankings all I can say is thank goodness he doesn't like them. I have said before that 15 swats has me bawling like a baby and puddy in his hands. And he wants to keep it that way so no daily maintenance. If I don't get things done or I slip up then I get swats but no maintenance. However, he does like those random swats. When he is talking to me and realizes I am not listening (I am partially deaf and if there is background noise you have to get my attention first)he will give me a quick swat to get my attention then he will continue.
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saffyMarch 3, 2011 at 3:00 AM
i love my guidlines (rules)... they make my life alot easier...
glad you are getting on ok with yours.
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StormyMarch 5, 2011 at 3:49 AM
Our rules are different too, but what's most important is that they are clear, and the expectations are known. Sometimes I whine and say he's not clear. Well now he threatens to "clear things up for me" so I guess he caught on to stall tactics. :)
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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