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A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Monday, August 22, 2011

.What She wants vs What He is willing to give leads to...

...much disappointment at times.

Today I realized that we are not on the same page much less in the same book. I am not sure what is going on in my little corner of the world. *SIGH*

I am at a loss I am not sure what the next step is if there is a next step. I feel like we just took a giant leap backwards.

Other news I have survived the start of school!!!! Being an administrative assistant to TWO (2) department chairs really sucks some times and the first week of school is one of those times LOL. Now that craziness of school starting is over I should be on here more often. I have been reading but not really commenting. Hopefully I can change that this week LOL

BUT first hubby and I have somethings to work out. Maybe I am asking to much, I don't know. I don't even know which direction we are heading I feel like a boat without a rudder.

5 comments:

PKAugust 22, 2011 at 9:18 PM
Hey Annie,
Good to see you here. I started back to school last week, kids come later this week. I know the craziness that brings. It's hard to feel close to your husband at time like this, much less feel submissive. I hope you get things smoothed out soon.

Hugs,
PK
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K's sweetieAugust 22, 2011 at 9:29 PM
Hi Annie,
Glad you're back. My school doesn't start til after Labor Day, but my own children started two weeks ago and I've been doing some subbing. I know how crazy it is. I hope you're doing ok, you sound really down. Sending you good vibes......
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MikkiAugust 22, 2011 at 10:36 PM
Bless your heart!! So sorry your having a tough patch... this too shall pass!! I've read some of your archives and really enjoy ready your blog! Take care!
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kiwigirliegirlAugust 22, 2011 at 10:37 PM
its a horrible feeling when you dont feel that you are on the same page - all you can do is find the words to talk - i hope you do - meantime thinking of you and as K's Sweetie says - sending you good vibes :) let us know you get on - good luck with the start of school xx
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StormyAugust 22, 2011 at 11:01 PM
Annie, it's a good possibility you are assigning him his feelings. I tend to think my man is playing mind games...because I do. But he never does- what he says is what he feels..nothing hidden, understated, etc. I have had to learn this..and take him at face value. I hope you guys can communicate and have a meeting of the minds. Hope you don't mind me asking, do you have date nights? Make time to have comfortable silences..he'll talk and he'll listen.
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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