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A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

The First...

So I had a major melt down last night, argued with two of the kids (note: our boys are ages 25, 23 and 20. All three are in college) and ended up storming of to our bedroom and slamming the door. I cried most of the night and gave everyone including hubby the silent treatment. The bad part is he had not done anything to deserve the silent treatment. Well he let me stew all night and most of today. We left work at noon today and began our long weekend. We ran errands and then came home. Because I did not sleep well last night I took a nap. Which by the way did not help my attitude much. After I woke up I was still snippy with hubby. One thing led to another and I basically told him I didn't feel as if he was on board with this whole CDD lifestyle.

By this time you can pretty much guess my attitude. Well he leaned me over the bed and proceeded to tend to business no warm up nothing just his hand meeting my bare bottom. Thank goodness for the pillow it muffled the ouches and owies. I stayed in position but I would tighten up. He would stop and tell me to stop tightening my muscles and as soon as I would loosen up he would smack quick and hard. I lost count of the number of swats when they started stinging so I have no idea of how many or how long it lasted.

Afterwards he rubbed lotion on my stinging backside. Taking a page from Taken in Hand he took it one step further and had his wicked way with me but it was from behind. I don't know about you but that position is the most submissive because I can not participate. I can't touch him, or kiss him. It wasn't a typical love session it felt like he was asserting his Alpha male position. .

What made it even tougher I had to come out of the room right afterwards and face our oldest and youngest sons and pretend nothing happen. Hubby wanted a McRib so we left and went to McDonalds so there I sat on a warm bottom no time to hash out what just happen and face my boys and husband. I did get a chance to ask him how he felt; hopefully in the next day or two he will write his thoughts here. I did ask for warm ups next time or at least my butt rubbed to prepare me but he said nope no warm ups and the rubbing was for afterwards. I guess I know what to expect.

Not sure how I feel about the whole event yet but I will think twice before storming off and slamming a door. At least for a couple of days.

Thanksgiving is not going to be too stressful since we will not be traveling and we will have no one here except our boys. All the girlfriends and college friends have gone with their families for Thanksgiving so we will have some quiet time.

2 comments:

Daisy ChristianNovember 25, 2010 at 1:32 AM
well I'm sure glad he has stepped up!! hopefully he will stay consistant...i don't get warmuos either..its straight to the paddle or loopy...i love when its just maintenance. because its lighter but either way it still hurts..atleast u get the hand..i have only gotten the hand once...

I'm daisy from yahoo groups by the way lol...i hope to start my blog tomorrow
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AnonymousNovember 25, 2010 at 8:59 AM
I think he is taking his hoh skills very seriously. You have a wonderful husband :)
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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