Annie's Woodshed: One more step...

A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Monday, November 22, 2010

One more step...

Yep that is correct I took one more step back today and moving hubby into the HOH. I changed our online banking to his email and his information. Boy will he be surprised tomorrow when he checks his email and the bank statement is there.

LOL...Loving this...

3 comments:

B'ManNovember 22, 2010 at 6:45 PM
Aren't you as about as proud of yourself as a southern belle can be! And I'm sure that he will be joyfully surprised in the same way.

Don't forget, as HoH there is a possibility that he may even want to delegate that responsibility back to you. Hopefully you will be as proud of him for doing that should it happen.

Sometimes what is humbly surrendered can be mistaken for manipulation and an abandoning of responsibilites. So open and honest communication about your (as a couple) specific dynamic will always be critical. Congratulations on taking another step!

Looking forward to the update.
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AnonymousNovember 23, 2010 at 6:36 AM
Wow, Annie. That's great that you are willing to turn another area over to him. Can I give you a word of caution, though? I say this without knowing your marriage dynamic or your HOH, but it is very important as a submissive to communicate. There might be a time when you feel you are turning things over, when actually you are taking control and without meaning to, demanding that he take charge. Sort of like topping from the bottom.

This relationship takes a long time to figure out, but the beauty of it is that it unique to every couple. I know your HOH is blessed to see that you are putting forth such effort to relinquish the control you tried to maintain for so long. With time and communication, you will get it all figured out.

Hugs,

Kady
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Annie's WoodshedNovember 23, 2010 at 8:24 AM
B’man please don’t wish that on me. You just don’t know how much stress that task causes me. Money is one that the areas that we argue over the most.

Kady, he knows it is coming we wrote out a contract that this was in the contract. I just have not had the time to go and do make all the changes. The headache of online banking you have to do each change and individually plus all the security questions grrr. But yesterday I had a couple of hours of downtime at work and managed to make all the changes. This will not be a total surprise. I even told him last night when we got him that I finally had time and made all the changes on the online banking.
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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