Annie's Woodshed: He had the audacity to tell me NO!

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Tuesday, December 28, 2010

He had the audacity to tell me NO!

So maybe we have come further than I thought. Let me give a little background as to how my weekend has gone….

First as you know we have older kids well one went to Chicago with a friend and one went to Virginia to his girlfriend’s house for Christmas. We have official started a new tradition…celebrating Christmas on New Year’s Eve. Why well I refuse to be that mother/mother-in-law that whines because she doesn’t have all her family at her house on Christmas Eve or Christmas. So I picked New Year’s Eve…this way I get to ring in the New Year with them too J

Any way back to my story…I have been sick sinus infection which turned in to an ear infection (yeah I know 48 and having ear infections who’d thunk) so I have been stuck in the house since Thursday. Paul let me out long enough to go to Christmas Eve service at church but it was there and back and it was just communion (Methodist). So I have had no “adult” contact outside of my family since leaving work on Wednesday. I am bored out of my skull. Oh and it has been snot freezing cold (well at least to this southern girl it has) and this stupid storm that moved through on Christmas day dumped 10-12 inches of that cold wet white stuff (get you minds out of the gutter I said COLD) yeah SNOW…barf (It was pretty now it can go away). So I am in cabin fever mode which is not pretty. When I get like this I don’t even want to clean I just want OUT!

Usually I am not this bad, most times I will curl up with a good book and read the day away. Well I didn’t get by the library and all the books I have I have read multiple times, as in I probably could quote chapters. Oh and I hate computers so you see my dilemma…did I say I HATED computers? Well if there is one thing I hate more than computers that is (ok guys no food or drink in your mouth…swallow) SHOPPING! That’s right a female that can not stand to shop. Making me go to a mall is cruel and unusual punishment. I detest Wal-Mart and Target and only go there because we have to have TP, garbage bags and dog food…hence the trip last night.

Hubby shoveled snow all day yesterday just because he is a landscaper at a college doesn’t mean he gets out of shoveling snow. He falls in under the "ground's crew" so he has to do "ground's crew" stuff like shovel snow. He was tired when he got home but the dog needed food. We had everything else we needed to wait for the great thaw, but dog food. Our dog is a 120 black lab that thinks he is a lap dog and he goes through about 20 pounds of feed every 2-3 weeks. We were over due in buying food.

So we venture out. We stop at Wal-Mart for dog food then head out to dinner. It was just me and Hubby so we got to chat. We discussed my journal entry and he said I pretty much hit the nail on the head…we never have any alone time and like me he is about ready to say the heck with it if the kids see or hear and don’t like it too bad. We will see how that goes.

Now we are to the part that made me realize maybe we have come further than I thought. On the way home we passed a Lowe’s. Now I love Lowe’s and Home Depot I could spend hours in there especially in their garden centers. It was still early it was around 6:15 but remember Paul was tired he had been at work since 7:00 shoveling snow…a little detail that slipped my mind when I suggested stopping at Lowe’s. Well he said no. Can you believe it he told me NO!

I don’t know what happen or what came over me, next thing I knew I was sitting there with my arms crossed over my chest and my bottom lip poked out pouting like a 4 year old glaring out the window. We were stopped a the red light in front of Lowe’s and hubby looks over at me and said don’t pout we have to go home and feed the dog. Still pouting I said he is not going to starve he has at least a week’s worth of fat stored up, plus he was fed this morning. Hubby said yes he would starve and freeze to death if we didn’t go home right then and feed him.(I actually think he was laughing at me I couldn't tell.) Normally hubby would have caved and turned in just to humor me and been grouchy all night but instead he said no and stood his ground. By the time we got 7 miles down the road to the house I was fine the brat had gone back into hiding and all was good. I was so proud of him, HE TOLD ME NO and meant it!

5 comments:

PKDecember 28, 2010 at 8:54 AM
So interesting. This lifestyle brings so many unexpected changes. We used to NEVER fight. What it was was that if he made me mad about something I just closed up in myself and stayed mad, mentally arguing with him. Now we 'fuss' a lot. Not angry at all but I feel better expressing myself and we are closer than I ever imagined we'd be. So I really understand your 'enjoying' him saying no.

If you are willing, would you email me? I have a question I would like to ask. elisspeaks@yahoo.com

Thanks,
PK
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B'ManDecember 28, 2010 at 10:59 AM
You joy comes through loud and clear. It is good that hubby's stance was pleasing to your soul.
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Daisy ChristianDecember 28, 2010 at 12:55 PM
Ok well we would get along great!! i have a dollar store down the street from me so that keeps me out of wal-mart. I hate going to wal-mart and I hate hate the MALL!!! Hate it hate it!!! yesterday Tyler said something about going to the mall ummm you know me right?? lol i said YOU wanna take me to the mall? we were in the bible book store and it was crowded. I said do you see the crowd in here my mind was going crazy thinking of ALL the people at the mall.. he smiled and said Ok your right never mind.. I dont do well with crowded malls or malls period.. I dont like to shop... I will go into Kohls though.I can get caught in my own little world... My sinus's are horrible too and I had that ear infection you were talking about. Last christmas my ear was bleeding OOO awful awful. my doc called it some kind of infection caused by sinus's its HORRIBLE. but the good thing my doc says you normally only get them once.. Anyway done rambling. glad things are going well.
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Annie's WoodshedDecember 28, 2010 at 1:24 PM
Daisy I think you maybe my twin and we were separated at birth...can you have a twin younger than you? LOL
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AnonymousDecember 29, 2010 at 5:31 AM
Annie, before ttwd, i would have whined back at her. We now fight a little more, but we're less angry with each other. Hope you feel better soon and have a merry Christmas/happy New Year.
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