Annie's Woodshed: Wife or Slave?

A True Wife

"A true wife makes a man's life nobler, stronger, grander, by the omnipotence of her love 'turning all the forces of manhood upward and heavenward.' While she clings to him in holy confidence and loving dependence she brings out in him whatever is nobles and richest in his being. She inspires him with her courage and earnestness. She beautifies his life. She softens whatever is rude and harsh in his habits or his spirit. She clothes him with the gentler graces of refined and cultured manhood. While she yields to him and never disregards his lightest wish, she is really his queen, ruling his whole life and leading him onward and upward in every proper path. -JR Miller

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Wife or Slave?

Today “S” sent me something that made me think. We had been discussing submissiveness and the new direction hubby had taken TTWD. I shared with him a saying I found online that simply stated..”the best submissives in the world are those who willingly come to you and kneel whispering of their love.” When I think of master/slave I think BD/SM with leather, whips, chains or the Story of O. When I first approached hubby about TTWD it was all about giving him control and being the Godly wife. But after today I am not so sure I am not already in a master/slave relationship. I don’t know where he got this but “S” sent this to me and now I am looking at life a little different.

A Slave’s Prayer

Allow girl the strength to answer questions she cannot fathom.

Allow girl the spirit to know His needs.

Allow girl the serenity to serve Him in peace.

Allow girl the love to show Him herself.

Allow girl the tenderness to comfort Him.

Allow girl the wisdom to be an asset to Him.

Let girl be able to show Him each day her love of service to Him.

Let girl open herself up to completely belong to Him

Let girl accept her punishment with the grace of a woman.

Let girl learn to please Him, beyond herself.

Grant girl the power to give herself to Him completely.

Give girl the strength to please us both.

Permit girl to love herself, in loving Him.

For it is greatest wish, her highest power to make His life complete as He makes her’s.

That could be easily the prayer that I pray daily…

Allow me the strength to answer his questions with all honesty.

All me to know his needs before he does.

Allow me the serenity to be at peace so our home with be peaceful.

Allow me to not to hold back my love for him but to pour it out daily on him.

Allow me to show him tenderness and comfort.

Allow me to be an asset to him not a hindrance.

Let me be able to show him daily my love for him as my husband and head of our home.

Let me open myself up to him and trust him.

Let me accept his correction and admonishment with the grace of a Godly woman.

Let me learn to please him beyond my desires.

Grant me the desire and power to give myself to him completely.

Give me the strength to please him in so pleasing myself.

Permit me to love myself so that he can love me.

For my greatest desire is to be the woman that he longs for.

Makes me wonder if I am not already a slave to him and you know what it is not as scary as I thought, I actually kind of like the idea.

4 comments:

abbyJune 15, 2012 at 2:18 PM
Thanks for this post, makes me realize the true meaning of my submissiveness..slavery ..to Master. abby
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AnonymousJune 20, 2012 at 2:23 PM
Very interesting. I just wrote something on this topic, but I haven't shared it on my blog yet, probably tomorrow. While I liked the idea of feeling owned, the word slave has had a negative connotation to it for me, but I'm discovering that I may be able to embrace it. We shall see. ;)
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

1Peter 3:1-7

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

Proverbs 31: 10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers sashes to the merchant. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31: 10-31 (ESV)

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