Annie's Woodshed: Waiting for the other shoe to drop

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Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Waiting for the other shoe to drop

So I lost it last night. I had been good since maintenance Saturday but in my defense it started after I burned myself with hot olive oil. Olive oil is thick and doesn’t wipe /wash off easily. I was stir-frying squash and zucchini and splashed it on my finger right around the cuticle. It hurt so bad I was sick to my stomach.

I yelled when it happened and hubby asked what happen. I told him I burned myself but he didn’t move off the computer and well that is when ET (evil twin) showed up. The more it hurt the sicker I got and the angrier I became. How dare he sit there and not offer to help. Even the first snide remark…”I need burn cream but that’s ok I got you just sit there” (stomped down the hall and slammed the bedroom door) didn’t faze him. Obviously he was more focused on his stupid computer game than the fact this wife’s hand was blistered.

After I put cream on it I asked son#1 to come help me. That is when HE showed up and I made the snide remark two “It’s ok we got it you just go back and play on the computer” That is when HE decided to go all HOH and said don’t cop and attitude with him.

ATTITUDE Ok Mister I will give you an ATTITUDE…I think it was something like this…You sat there on the damn computer after I told you I burned myself and I needed burn cream. You didn’t get up off your lazy butt and offer to help and now you say don’t cop an attitude. (OH yeah I was in rare form). Why is it when we are hurting and in pain common sense disengages?

Well he said nothing I just got the look and he walked away. We didn’t speak the rest of the evening. He took a shower and went to bed without even telling me good night. He totally ignored me when I came to bed. He was angry and this morning I could tell he was still angry. Even after his coffee there was still a chill in the room. So now I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. What made it even worse is son#1 was standing there right in the middle of the invasion of ET.

I think my goose may be a little on the well done side.

How’s the finger? Well, I have a crescent moon blister from the top of my finger around to the middle of the cuticle. I slept fitfully because it stung all night and it stings worse when I get it wet so the shower was a challenge this morning. It feels funny to type. I tend to type with the side of this finger and it is irritating because of the pressure it takes to push the keys down but I am at work pushing through.

7 comments:

PKJuly 17, 2012 at 4:27 PM
I'm torn a little. I think he should have put down the computer and helped. The only think you might should have done that you didn't is you might have said, "Hubby, could you help me. I've really hurt myself." Not that you should have had to or anything, but I know sometimes I'm on the computer and I'm really tuned out to general conversation around me. If I hear 'PK' or 'Mom' I pay more attention.

So I'll be the non-sub out here and say if he's going to spank you for your attitude he first needs to apologize for pouting and staying mad.

Either way, I hope you reconnect soon.

Hugs,
PK
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abbyJuly 17, 2012 at 7:27 PM
Hmmm....I think I would have reacted exactly as you did, and had a sore bottom to match the finger.
abby
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Aimless RamblingJuly 17, 2012 at 7:40 PM
I think he is angry with himself for being so oblivious to your need. You were in pain asked for his help and he ignored you. Granted your son being present was not good but understandable.

Maybe if you apologize to your son for your outburst, maybe hubby might see things a little differently.
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AnonymousJuly 18, 2012 at 1:22 AM
Hope you get to feeling better
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SaoirseJuly 18, 2012 at 8:49 PM
Sorry about the burn! That's no fun and of course, it hurts to be ignored. Sorry about your temper-I have one too. It's tough because he was no saint either, but you know you owe him an apology. Good luck!
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AnaJuly 18, 2012 at 11:58 PM
Ouch! That does not sound nice. I hope that your finger is better and that things with your husband are better.
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AnonymousJuly 19, 2012 at 11:39 PM
Ugh. It sounds like you both should apologize...for different reasons obviously. I hope you get to talk things through and work things out soon and I hope your finger is feeling better too.
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Colossians 3:18-25

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Slaves, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. Colossians 3:18-25 ESV

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Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1Peter 3:1-7

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